Hey guys, glad to see all of you here.
banana-with the cute carrot is back!!
It's been 2 months into year 2010, really did miss you guys. For some of us, life goes on the same, but for most of us, it's a different game all together. College and Uni life is like beer versus wine, or black versus white, at least that applies to me. I can't help but to feel lost in transition these days.
To start off with, the people back in Foundation were the warmest, friendliest, the most receptive of changes and ideas. However, Uni is the total opposite. People are like thick castle walls that are almost impossible to penetrate. Even if the invitation into the castle were done through the most basic avenue- empty talk. Empirical evidence reports that people are just not comfortable stepping out of their own comfort zone. Some of them are just too proud to talk to you... >.<
But wait, it will be so unfair for me to make preconceived judgements, not like this. I guess it's because of the expectation that I brought into Uni that made it sour to go through the first few weeks. Maybe it's because of the diverse characters found within the class population, that makes it hard for certain people to be able warm up to you. Or maybe it's because everyone's new, and all we need is just time.
Call it crazy, but I think this equation make sense:
EQN to solve unfriendliness =
[time x (gradual small talks)] + open mindedness
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situational Adaptation
It's been 2 months already. I've warmed up most parts of the class, except for a few individuals. I guess the only factor that can interfere with the above equation's intended results will be the other person's willingness to tag with you. So if you ever feel something's not right with you conversation partner's non-verbal cues, back out!! Then engage the person again with a different topic. Well.....like if your friend frowns when you ask a question or try to engage him/her in a convo, you know something's not right. If your friend decides to talk to another person beside her apart from you, you know something's wrong. and if your friend keeps talking to the other friend, and leave you hanging, you know what to do.
What do you think guys? I don't know man...but i think that people are harder to please, and because of that, they prefer to stick to their own gang. People these days seems to be wearing a mask. You can tell that they're being cautious not to do silly things. Afraid to be judged?
What could be worst? Your best friend who seems to be your closest buddy in college just laughed at your jokes, make a lasting conversation with you like you guys did in college just didn't bother you. Ouch dude!! The worst thing is that he realizes that you're being left out. Well, not completely, but enough to not be inside his new circle of new found friends. And he does nothing. Not even an effort to pull both sides together. Not even a try when you approach him regarding the matter of new friends not willing to accept you. The worst part? He prefers to talk to new friends instead of you. Well, I dun blame him, we all find new toys interesting while the old one less interesting, but it kind of makes you wonder what went wrong..? Does it not?
Hey, Hey...what I say here might just be messy to you, and it is messy. Simple because you have a messy writter with a messed up emotion...But hey, bad start does not mean it will end badly. I just got a feeling that this will change.
Let me see you speak guys ^^
DJ Signing out,
-DJ Damian
