DJ on Physics: when Effort (E) = Force (F)

Can Effort (E) = Force (F), the physics equation be related to life, the human communication of life. Does it give a positive value or does it in turn give a negative value? We are familiar with the way people accept and reject us. However, little attention is paid to whether or not that acceptance or rejection is due to the effort put in. But there will come a time where we’ll all come to a point of time where we ponder whether extra effort in a conversation will give bigger impact in communication, especially when it involves the people we treasure. It not only works for the people we care about, but it also works on everyone, regardless of who they are, and their status. For a competent speaker, the E matters a lot.

In physics, force is a vector quantity, which means that is has direction of propagation, taking that F1 + F2 =F3 (note: F is Force). When the F1 and F2 forces are acting in the same direction, the F3 would result in a bigger force. How ever, if the F1 and F2 are acting in a different direction, repulsion occurs, therefore, F3 will be a “0” value, or even a negative value. Therefore, if a positive F3 is desired, the force of either F1 or F2 has to be larger than the other in order to obtain a positive result.

This principle can be used in our life, taking F1 and F2 as the effort used of two people in a conversation, while the F3 represents the velocity of their conversation. To critically think it, the result of F3 greatly depends on the attitude of F1 and F2 in the conversation. If either one of them were to be less interested, the F3 , resultant force would be dissatisfactory. Therefore, F1 or F2 has to put in more effort if a good conversation were to be achieved. And the answer to why either F1 or F2 is less interested could be dependent on these few factors, namely tiredness, stress from work, conflict of interest and many more. To overcome this imbalanced equation, cracking a joke to ease the tension, or even talking about the subject’s interest and even listening extra hard would be a great catalyst. However, many a times, the less interested party fails to acknowledge the extra effort put in. But on the other hand, some might realize the extra F in the Equation and work extra hard to balance it, now this is the exception in our human “physics” world.

But bear in mind that realizing the imbalanced force in the equation might not lead to a positive integer. It could also bring about negative values. For instance, let’s take a boy chasing a girl for instance. Naturally, when a boy likes a girl, he would put in extra effort to make the girl happy. Now many a times, whether or not the girl is interested or not will affect the F3 resultant force. If it’s a yes, then F1+F2=F3, with F3 as a positive integer. But if it’s a no, then the extra effort might just remain at a “0” constant value, or it could backfire and travel done the negative line. So this proves that Effort doesn’t always = Force.

From the examples given above, it could be derived that F1 and F2 are independent of each other. F1 will do it’s part while F2 on the other hand would react to personal feelings and interest on F1. The F3 varies from situation to situation. If a positive value were to be obtained, we could be sure that the F3 would accelerate and increase in Velocity (V).
However, if a negative value were to be obtained, the situation is best handled by the potential contributor at that point of time. The rule states that in normal circumstances, F3 would either be a constant value, a “0” value or a negative value. But the exception is when F3 is a positive value and increasing.

However the situation maybe, or however the resultant force may be, the most important factor in a conversation equation is the willingness from both sides of the party to contribute and to give a chance to each other in a conversation. More chance= more open mindedness= higher chance of a high F3. And the equation can work the other way.

Effort (E) = Force (F) is an applicable physics concept in our human “physics” communication. The mechanism remains the same, but the subject varies, and so does the Resultant Force (F3). As how Einstein words it in his renowned second law of motion: “Every action has a reaction”.

Therefore the conclusion is:
· The Resultant force (F) in the case of F1 + F2= F3 is dependent on situational factors and personal contribution.
· The Effort (E) = Force (F) theory is proven workable in Human Communication.

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DJ Damian Thomas Khaw

DJ on Honesty:~The longest Walk

80, 95, 78… it was the 1st semester of 5th Form examination as I could recall. Everybody was delighted to receive their Additional Mathematics results, while I on the other hand was on the opposite side of the river. Well, guess what? I was the last to receive. In fact, Mrs. Tay didn’t call out my name at all! Chiti-chiti Bang Bang! As I expected, she wanted to have a private chat with me. As I recalled, her tone was more than of a concerned and upset one than an angry one. The red ink on my paper showed 20….

The fact is, I will be facing my add math tuition teacher that very same afternoon, whom my parents have work so hard to pay her fees. The point is, it is definitely not pleasing at all for her to know that I’ve been doing so badly all these while, and what more; I’ll be sitting for my SPM examination in a few months time! In fact, it must be disappointing and frustrating for her to know that she failed to teach me well. That whole day in school, I had a dilemma on whether to tell her the truth and admit that I really needed help or not. She always thought that I did well in school. And the fact that she’s a strict teacher made me think quintuple more on whether to burst the balloon or not.

I truly agree that time and tide waits for not man. As much as I wanted to be straight and truthful to her, I just couldn’t. When class dismissed that afternoon, I was the 1st to leave the class. Don’t even think about my marks, she didn’t even have the chance to ask me. As soon as I got out of her house, I paddled as hard as I could.

It’s just 50 meters to my house when I decided to stop. I stood at the side of the street and started to think, and I thought hard. You see, as much as I couldn’t bring myself to tell the truth, I couldn’t tell a lie either. I just couldn’t. It’s such a shameful secret that I’ve kept from her so long. I guess that the fact that I know she’s willing to spent extra time and effort to help me prompted me to do what is right. At that point of time, I knew what I had to do, and I realize the reason why I shied away from telling her the truth. It was simply because I was scared. I was just too afraid to see her angry and disappointed. The thought of this really demotivated me. But I told myself that if I can’t be truthful now, when am I going to learn to be truthful? How are people suppose to trust me if I do not start now?It was the hardest thing to do; it really isn’t, especially when it involves telling the right thing to the right person at the right time, and knowing that at that right moment, that right person will be less than happy. I didn’t know what gave me the courage, but all I remember was picking up my bike and the rest took place naturally.

I could still remember myself sitting on her bench in her garden, letting go of my tears. For how long was it, I couldn’t remember. I told her everything, about how I started to fail and how lightly I took it. She knew I was jus as disappointed as she is. I could still recall her saying: “Damian, you have made some mistakes, it’s still not too late to catch up. I’ll help you, ok? You do your part, and I’ll do mine. Don’t worry…” those were the exact words she told me. And that was the first time in 5 years I saw the soft side of her, it was very comforting and motivating.

Honesty is like a magic that amazes you in ways you can hardly imagine. The truth hurts, but it is a wound that heals well along with time, whereas a lie is a cancer that breaks out and never subsides. Frankness and directness is still the best approach the most difficult task. Ironic isn’t it? The hardest thing in the world is always the right thing to do. It should have been the other way around, but unfortunately in our world that we live in; it just doesn’t work that way. The world could be so much of a better place if only HONESTY were part of our NATURAL human communication.

What took place that day was a real turning point in my life. I learnt the hard way that I have to shame the devil and admit my weakness in order to be stronger. But that was only a small drop of what honesty can bring me. We always hear that honesty is the best policy. I might have loose my respect that day, but it certainly got me to the right place in the end. The best road to take isn’t always the smoothest road, nor is it the lousiest. You just have to search a little deep down your heart and grab it tightly as u take that road. You loose out in the poor construction of the road, but at the end of the road is what makes you stronger each time you travel it. You loose some, but you definitely gain some. And sometimes the reward is heftier than your effort. You will never loose out, never.

That evening, I could not be more than glad that I made the right choice to tell the truth. To some, this story is just another lame joke. But to me, it’s more than a turning point of my life; it was a turning point that drove me to elevate myself each day. It was a turning point that altered my attitude that made me who I am today, and still elevating.
Trotting down the road with my bicycle beside me, I took a slow walk back home. It was the longest but the happiest walk of my life, not because of any reason, it was simple because I found a very precious key to human communication that day, and I used it………….

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DJ Damian Thomas Khaw

A little closer to heaven

The morning was still gloomy. Sensing an early start to the day, I strecthed out my arms on to the nearby chair from my bed in order to reach out for my phone. I had to reassure myself on the current time. Unable to retrieve the phone in range, I pushed myself further until I had a grip on the smooth surface of the phone. The time shows 11.30 in the morning! At that moment, I was instantly reminded about the gathering at 1 in the afternoon. With the limited time, I rushed to prepare myself for the occasion.

Then there I stood at the gates of my former high-school, Victoria Institution. Surprisingly, the essence of time hasn't effected much on the school. The surrounding is still very familliar to me. I then proceed towards the school hall. On my way, I was interrupted with a couple of familiar voices and faces. A short talk and I was soon met up with my acquaintances. I was then invited by my friend, Jacky to enquire about a part job nearby Pavillion. However, I was to be brought alone there. I accepted the invite. An hour passed, I had to part ways with my aquaintances for the period but was to be reunited for a movie at 5 in the evening.

Eventually, I was infront of the building where the company was after a long walk. I was debriefed by my friend on the way regarding the job. However, suspicion starts to rise when a couple of my questions were intendedly avoided or covered by similar, unrelated answers. According to him, I was brought there to learn more about the company. At the entrance, I was introduced to an attractive young lady. Hazel was her name. I asked more in detail and was enlightened to know that she's only 19 and a college student working for the company. Curiosity still clouded my mind as I still do not have any idea on the work that I'm supposed to deal with. Infact, the company name was also absent from my knowledge.

THIS IS WHERE THE FUN STARTS!

Soon, I was lead by her into the office lobby. There, I was introduced to the company name and a brief history on it. DHCL/SYN was the company's name and the products? Estabel and Lampe Berger. The company was quite familiar to me. Its one of those multi-level marketing operating companies. That company itself has scamming related issues from what I've heard. In addition to that, MLM equals to network marketing which also equals to pyramid system which is already doomed by its organizational structure. The product is not the incentive to join an MLM. Its more of an excuse to attempt to legitimate the real money-making scheme through expansion. It's practically "the cover" to make it seem legal.

Later, I was asked about my knowledge on network marketing. I was entertained by the play so I tagged along the game and told her that this would be my first time hearing that. Next, I was brought for a tour on the variety of products ranging from RM 300 to RM 85,000! Not forgetting the nicely designed spa with a touch of French interior. I was then brought into another office and was followed up with 2 hours of lecture with her boyfriend, Farez. Thier persuasive skills? Excellent. Presentation skills? Outstanding. Manipulative Skills? Top-notch. An entertaining play of how communication is able to twist your mind and deteriorate your judgement. They played with the big cash and roll with the nice cars to create an impression that will hook any regular teens. I was constantly reminded not to look at the big figure as the "model" to start the business. Instead, to focus more on the large sums of gain in the very near future. To make the plot even more real, I was pointed to several fancy car's nearby which was claimed to be the owned by members of the company. The car ranges from Nissan Fairlady, Mazda Rx8 to an unknown Ferrari.

If it wasn't for the knowledge of the company, I would have been absorbed into buying "the dream" plan. All I had to do for that moment was forcefully smile myself on some of the sweet and thoughtful remarks. I was then plague with the thought that my friend might be a victim of the scheme. Later on the night, I was invited for a treat. A "yum cha" session tomorrow with my friend, the both of them and few other ones which I met there. Accepting the quick and seemingly generous offer? Thats for you to figure out. ;)

Cute Carrot Chris~

Kute Karrot Khris~

Cherish

Could you remember when was the last time you had actually lean on your parents arm and listening them talking softly to you? When was the last time you threw a tantrum to your parents and acting like a pampered child? AND when was the last time you had actually tell you parents that you love them? Are all these memories still remain in your brain or even in a corner of your heart.

As we grow older, the "rate of forgetting" in a person will increase. People tempt to forget many things that had happened, no matter how important it was to us or how much we cherished it in the past. Sometimes, even though u tired hard to recall what was the missing part, you just could not recall anything. And parents, siblings, friends and teachers will tend to put the blame on us and condemn a lot about our memory power. However memory and our tendencies to forget things are happening beyond what we can control.

God created every living things on this earth. And all of the living things have their own life-cycle. God had also created us to be born under our recent family and people we meet in our life now are believed to be destined by God. There is a saying "The person you had met in your life now will actually be a passer by in your next life; while the passers by in your life now could actually plays an important role in your next life." Have you heard of it before and what you think about it? Well, for me it's not a superstitious believe but I will not 100% believe in it. And I could rationally tell that this might happened, but it might just be a conincidence.

However I always bear this sayings in mind to remind me to cherish everything and everyone that appears in my life. I understand that in my next life, I probably will not have the same family members beside to support me anymore; I would not have the same gang of friends that could spend time with anymore. And everyone around us will be playing a different role in the next life-cycle. Therefore we should treasure the people and things around us. Moreover, none of us will know what will happen tomorrow or even few weeks later. Mishaps and incidents could occur anytime and bring away the live of someone we loves.

Well, it's still not too late to cherish your friends, lecturers, your love ones, and especially your family members starting from tomorrow. Just bear in mind and perform the action of "CHerish". Or else time flies by, people passes by and by that time it is too late for you to regret.

And to my other companions that have been posting about relatioship recently "~ Do cherish your love ones and people who love you ",

cdv*p* - *pOLy* LiAn

Ends with a smile

This is a post for someone that I made a deal with.

Few days ago, I was looking through my personal blog about whatever that I had written down in the past. Looked back to the stories in my life especially high school memories that I miss a lot and I realized that high school is the place for most of us to discover every new thing. I entered the school without a single friend when i was form 1. Well,the beginning of the high school life was scary for me because everyone seemed to have their own group and I was this lost kid. Fortunately, I managed to make few friends from my class and then followed by other classes. People say it is hard to get close friends in high school but i think is even harder to leave them, and impossible to forget them especially you have been hanging out together with them during school time and outings. It is like one day we'll wave hello, and wish we never had to say good-bye. All of us started out as total strangers in the same school and ended as friends.

I have this friend, a very close friend of mine now. I cannot remember how we met each other because he was this little shy boy that did not talk much or I should say I barely see him talk. We started to talk and hang out when we were form 2 because we were in the same club and I had my moral class at his classroom. Besides, I always walked to his class for my friends after recesses or classes and of course I talked to him before I went back to my class. Things were a little bit different when we were in form 3, rumours like who like who started to spread around so we ended up to be a couple and we kept it low so that others will not know about. However, eveyone found out which I do know how. I guess because the shcool is not that big, everyone knows everyone especailly it comes to gossip. Anyway, we broke up after PMR.

Sad huh?

Personally, I do not think so. It is true to say that it was very awkward after that because we were in the same class in form 4 and we did not talk much after broke up. However, we managed to avoid the awkward thing between us. So we were back to last time, close friend again, even closer than the past! Still, some of my friends kept on telling me stuff like "you guys look good together, dont waste it" and of course nothing happen in between. Eventually, I figured it there is not anything between us other than frinedship after a very long time. I was very happy about the conclusion that I made it because I took a long time to figure it out.

I got to admit that he is a good listener. We talk about everything as in everything like lame jokes, problems and so on. Always patiently listen to me whenever I cannot deal stuff by myself and give advices as well. A very caring friend for everyone because he will never dump you alone at anywhere. Trust me, I made him to go shopping with me by telling what if I went missing if I take cap alone or all kind of crap and it works! Now, he thinks that I'm very good at making others to feel guilty by stories, haha. I am really glad that he found his loved one now, everyone is very happy for them because they been through a lot before they reached the point.

See, we are close friends now. I have seen my friends do not even care about their exes once they are done with each other which I do not think is a good way. It is always better to have a friend instead of stranger. Listening and communicating with each other help in a way.

© the vanilla villain Vivian

Interesting

Class was conducted differently for the "Human Communication" lecture session yesterday. It was Mr. James who temporarly conducted the class. He did a good job on enlightening everyone about ADVERTISING and what mass communication is roughly about. It was interesting and informative. I do gain a lot from him throughout the 1 and 1/2 hours ^^ And the best thing is, it managed to inspire me to post something here on the blog regarding "ADVERTISING".

I would like to share with you a creative advertisement which I found on the INTERNET. And guess what, yesterday MR James mentioned that in Malaysia advertisement, "exposing Armpits" are prohibited. Weird right ?! I was quite surprised to hear that too "~

Advertising its actually a word that has been used and mentioned quite commonly among everyone of us. But it actually have many meanings and elaboration behind it. It could also be related to many kind of things around us. And Mr. James yesterday related advertising to "BRAND", and after his further explanation I do understand how can these two words can be closely related to each other.

However, I think many of us probably will have the wrong perception and rigid thinking on advertisement. We often will feel suspicious about the truthfulness of a particular advertisement. But ADVERTISEMENT is actually a part of mass comuunication. They are exist to introduce products and things to people who needed them. Electronic and printed media could actually make their plans work.

Talking about advertising had actually reminds me about a conversation occured in a taiwan drama "STARLIT", which I think it could clearly define advertising. This is how the conversation like : - "Advertisement is actually not meant to promote or sell products. They are exist to fulfill people's dreams and to provide people with their desires. Moreover, every advertisement acutally have the objective to exploit people's need. They are trying to express different necessity in people and providing people with the things they desired. And perhaps providing people with the things they desired will be the most happy and wonderful act in the universe."

So the next time when u see a billboard or an advertisement on TV or papers, do stop by and spend time reading it. Try to discover what are they trying to advertise beacause it might be advertising something that u desired. And perhaps they are able to make your dream comes true. Do appreciate the hardwork and effort of a creative director ^^

cdv*p* - *pOLy* LiAn

A darker day..

Until a recent point, life was progressing in order in align with my personal expectations. Contented with the moment, I tried making the best for myself and for the ones I know. Unexpected by the complexity that was bound to occur, I was moving on in life effortlessly. However, that was about to change. 25th May 09; the mark of a period of sorrow. It was 8.53 in the night when a sudden beep on my phone interupts my tv programme. Uncertain and peculiar on whom it may be, I rushed towards my phone. At that instant, my soul slides away just with the sight of the sender. It was my ex.

It all started on the first month of this year. Infact it was just after the Christmas and New Year celebrations when it begin. During then, we will exchange texts through our phone for hours. Myself being the more playful one, while she, the humble and sweet one. I was captivated by the moment. I was in what would most call "love". Soon enough, she initiated the starting move with the request to be together or remain friends. At that moment, I couldn't refuse the more favorable offer. So I made the choice that seemed right. However, she was inclined towards speaking Mandarin while English was my mother tongue. Nevertheless, it was all good. That was the only flaw. Everything else was perfect.

Soon, she applied for a full-time job at a pyramid-shaped mall. It was a convience for her as she was living across the road. I was reassured by her that everything will remain the same. Things did. All the outings we shared was at the same venue which was at her working place. It was only a few weeks later where she got busy. Unsatisfied, I seek advice from associates. Perhaps doing so caused my judgement to sway from reality. One thing was in mind; a breakup. Pending my abrupt decision, I placed effort to construct a better relationship than the current. However, condition remained the same. Being pressured, I made the bold move; somewhere in March. It was only fair for me to end what she had started. Trying to ease the current condition, I suggest being back to just friends. Unfortunately, she was not in mind with me.

She was saddened over the inevitable situation. So was I. The first two weeks after that was a huge downfall in life. Without fail, a text with only the phrase "I miss u" was left by her through the phone messaging system. Feeling even more distraughted by that, I avoided her in any way possible. The occurance of the same text reappearing became less and less. Nonetheless, from time to time, it still occurs. When it does, I would ask about her welfare and the reason to her texts which will then be followed by short arguments. Replies were always the same; bad state and more of the same phrase. She left her job and started college soon. It was then I stopped hearing from her. Gradually, I proceed with life and regained my light back. Everything was going accordingly until her recent text haunts me again. I replied and told her about my first blog. However, as usual, a few replies and then argument follows. I know she would be reading this. And when you do, I hope you can leave me alone as promised. Perhaps an alternate crosshair will be the best for me, where then, I will only be a shot away from that particular one ;). With that, I end my worries along with my post.

*Done by request*

Cute Carrot Chris~
Kute Karrot Khris~