Hollywood made it easy to express, the wedding cards gives you the impression that it is the easiest thing to say, contemporary songs made it colossally easy to song it out.
Have you ever tried expressing the most unpretentious phrase to a person you really like? However it may seem, it certainly proved to be the most abstruse expression I have ever attempted to project.
Some may ask, “Is this the first time you’re telling a girl? Chill brother! You? Being nervous? This isn’t you at all…” hmm… come to think of it, it’s quite true to say that it’s really my first time falling for some one for what she really is. Did I fall for her looks? It’s very fake of me to say no either. I believe that the majority settle for looks at the very first place before considering other factors, as people takes what is most obvious to them. However, you can never judge a book by its cover. You have to flip it, read it, and even understand it. As how Bacon would put it, “Some books are to be tasted others to be swallowed and a few to be chewed and digested.”
Saying that “I like you phrase” may be as ABC to some, but trust me, it’s more like XYZ to me, especially when you don’t have psychic to tell whether it will back fire or not. I’ll have all these “pre-telling” trauma like “Will she ignore me after telling her?”, “Is this an ill time to tell her?” Well folks, read on to see whether I had a happy ending!
Lunch on Thursdays is always extraordinary. For some reason, I always look forward to Thursdays. You know, back in high school, you will get a lousy schedule with your least favorite subjects in it that makes you go “God, it’s Thursday again!!!” But it all change in college, not to mention I only have 1 Human Communication class on that day. And lunch with her on every Thursday? It was the bonus that I wouldn’t as too much for!
Even as casual friends, I would bring lunch and we’ll share it. Please don’t get me wrong. We’re not eating from the same bowl, but divide it of course! Occasionally, she’ll do the rice, while I do the vegetables. What I’m trying to say is that we put the same amount of effort to our friendship, and that’s part of human communication as well.
To cut long story short, I planned to tell her that 3 word phrase on that particular Thursday. The question is how? Well, I had my plan A ready at the back of my hand. I actually planned to tell her on our way to a Korean Embassy event, after lunch. Well, at least I knew how the flow went.
We had a great chat that day during lunch. Then, we were supposed to catch a campus coach to attend the Korean Embassy event in Renaissance Hotel, but we missed the bus… Good Lord, now that the bus Is gone, I have no choice but to scrape plan A, which was to tell her on the bus!! What is more? I don’t have a plan B at all!!
So we headed to the computer lab to study for marketing quiz which was about to happen in a few days time. We have a campus online learning portal. So notes are available anytime. Well, guess what? She went on Facebook instead of studying, how hilarious is that? What a way to “study”, right?
At that point of time, I knew that opportunity is here. She isn’t pressured in any how; she’s online on Facebook, which means she’s free! So I had to find a perfect reason to lure her out of lab so that I could at least tell her in private. At least with that reason, our conversation wouldn’t sound too random, which of course would back fire if it’s done wrongly. Guess what was my perfect reason? My perfect reason was to buy her ice cream, which I had promise her that I would in the past. “Every strong chain has it’s weakest point; every ‘perfect’ reason has its perfect loophole.” And the perfect ice cream just turned into a blast-cream, because she wasn’t in the mood for it!
Well, by God’s grace another chance came. I wasn’t skeptical about chances, because it was all I ever had. So we were waiting for a friend in our campus corridor. We continued to chat as we were waiting. And the worst thing could ever happen just did happen! We were just topic- less.
I was lost for words! That’s the worst thing that you would ever expect from me. A part time Emcee and a hyperactive friend who could never keep his mouth shut just lost for words all of a sudden? I guess this is what they call psychology noise in human communication. To observe silence in the library is fine, but to observe silence after a conversation about “what kind of guys do you like” is not fine at all. Trust me, it was dead awkward.
I couldn’t remember how silent I was, but what I remember was the struggle to tell her, which I think she felt it too. To my surprise, just before I could open my mouth, she sprung up to me and told me that she knew what I was about to do all along. Well, she wasn’t awkward in a negative way when she said that to me. Instead, she was smiling, but awkward at the same time. At least I know that I’m not in for rejection. She then continued saying that she feels comfortable with the way things are, which was being friends at the moment, and might consider taking a step-up in the near future. I perfectly understood how she felt, and some things just cannot be pressured. What more? I can afford to wait for we are going to do the same course in our degree. I did explain to her that I didn’t mean to push her and hope that this wouldn’t affect our friendship. And she took it well. Till date, we agreed that we’re doing very well as friends and hope that things will not change for the worst. The least expected question from her was “you’ll wait for me, right?” What do you expect me to say? Yes, of course. I truly thank God that I wasn’t shot flat face down.
It only took 3 minutes of my entire life to express. Even though the wait would take up to more than God knows how many years, but that 3 minutes seems to be much longer compared to the wait. Time take? 3 minutes. Number of people involved? 2 people. Location? Our campus corridor. The language used? Awkwardly sweet.
At 5pm, just before she turned her back and leave for the exit that I normally walk her to, I looked at her and said with my awkwardly sweet tone, “I’ll wait for you!”
Have you ever tried expressing the most unpretentious phrase to a person you really like? However it may seem, it certainly proved to be the most abstruse expression I have ever attempted to project.
Some may ask, “Is this the first time you’re telling a girl? Chill brother! You? Being nervous? This isn’t you at all…” hmm… come to think of it, it’s quite true to say that it’s really my first time falling for some one for what she really is. Did I fall for her looks? It’s very fake of me to say no either. I believe that the majority settle for looks at the very first place before considering other factors, as people takes what is most obvious to them. However, you can never judge a book by its cover. You have to flip it, read it, and even understand it. As how Bacon would put it, “Some books are to be tasted others to be swallowed and a few to be chewed and digested.”
Saying that “I like you phrase” may be as ABC to some, but trust me, it’s more like XYZ to me, especially when you don’t have psychic to tell whether it will back fire or not. I’ll have all these “pre-telling” trauma like “Will she ignore me after telling her?”, “Is this an ill time to tell her?” Well folks, read on to see whether I had a happy ending!
Lunch on Thursdays is always extraordinary. For some reason, I always look forward to Thursdays. You know, back in high school, you will get a lousy schedule with your least favorite subjects in it that makes you go “God, it’s Thursday again!!!” But it all change in college, not to mention I only have 1 Human Communication class on that day. And lunch with her on every Thursday? It was the bonus that I wouldn’t as too much for!
Even as casual friends, I would bring lunch and we’ll share it. Please don’t get me wrong. We’re not eating from the same bowl, but divide it of course! Occasionally, she’ll do the rice, while I do the vegetables. What I’m trying to say is that we put the same amount of effort to our friendship, and that’s part of human communication as well.
To cut long story short, I planned to tell her that 3 word phrase on that particular Thursday. The question is how? Well, I had my plan A ready at the back of my hand. I actually planned to tell her on our way to a Korean Embassy event, after lunch. Well, at least I knew how the flow went.
We had a great chat that day during lunch. Then, we were supposed to catch a campus coach to attend the Korean Embassy event in Renaissance Hotel, but we missed the bus… Good Lord, now that the bus Is gone, I have no choice but to scrape plan A, which was to tell her on the bus!! What is more? I don’t have a plan B at all!!
So we headed to the computer lab to study for marketing quiz which was about to happen in a few days time. We have a campus online learning portal. So notes are available anytime. Well, guess what? She went on Facebook instead of studying, how hilarious is that? What a way to “study”, right?
At that point of time, I knew that opportunity is here. She isn’t pressured in any how; she’s online on Facebook, which means she’s free! So I had to find a perfect reason to lure her out of lab so that I could at least tell her in private. At least with that reason, our conversation wouldn’t sound too random, which of course would back fire if it’s done wrongly. Guess what was my perfect reason? My perfect reason was to buy her ice cream, which I had promise her that I would in the past. “Every strong chain has it’s weakest point; every ‘perfect’ reason has its perfect loophole.” And the perfect ice cream just turned into a blast-cream, because she wasn’t in the mood for it!
Well, by God’s grace another chance came. I wasn’t skeptical about chances, because it was all I ever had. So we were waiting for a friend in our campus corridor. We continued to chat as we were waiting. And the worst thing could ever happen just did happen! We were just topic- less.
I was lost for words! That’s the worst thing that you would ever expect from me. A part time Emcee and a hyperactive friend who could never keep his mouth shut just lost for words all of a sudden? I guess this is what they call psychology noise in human communication. To observe silence in the library is fine, but to observe silence after a conversation about “what kind of guys do you like” is not fine at all. Trust me, it was dead awkward.
I couldn’t remember how silent I was, but what I remember was the struggle to tell her, which I think she felt it too. To my surprise, just before I could open my mouth, she sprung up to me and told me that she knew what I was about to do all along. Well, she wasn’t awkward in a negative way when she said that to me. Instead, she was smiling, but awkward at the same time. At least I know that I’m not in for rejection. She then continued saying that she feels comfortable with the way things are, which was being friends at the moment, and might consider taking a step-up in the near future. I perfectly understood how she felt, and some things just cannot be pressured. What more? I can afford to wait for we are going to do the same course in our degree. I did explain to her that I didn’t mean to push her and hope that this wouldn’t affect our friendship. And she took it well. Till date, we agreed that we’re doing very well as friends and hope that things will not change for the worst. The least expected question from her was “you’ll wait for me, right?” What do you expect me to say? Yes, of course. I truly thank God that I wasn’t shot flat face down.
It only took 3 minutes of my entire life to express. Even though the wait would take up to more than God knows how many years, but that 3 minutes seems to be much longer compared to the wait. Time take? 3 minutes. Number of people involved? 2 people. Location? Our campus corridor. The language used? Awkwardly sweet.
At 5pm, just before she turned her back and leave for the exit that I normally walk her to, I looked at her and said with my awkwardly sweet tone, “I’ll wait for you!”
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