Have you heard about " Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: Gender differences in Communication". How does language affect our interaction with other genders? Well, language is the basis of all interaction and integral part of our society; it uses a series of systems to convey meaning, thus setting up a discourse community. The surrounding environment plays a major role in our language as a social practice. Language is a form of communication involving an organized system of symbols whether written, spoken or pictures. Language is purposeful, built on shared conventions, shaped by the context and constitutes texts of various sorts and "…language is the source of human life and power". Language is used to achieve a variety of social purposes. For example, we use it to entertain, to explain how some thing works, to provide information. We also use language to make sense of the world, to express ideas on a range of topics and to interact with various audiences. People need to be able to communicate confidently and appropriately with people of all walks of life: with those who are older or younger and with those in positions of power.
Talking is a part of our physical needs. Even Wade, one of the characters in X-Men Origins: Wolverine, said that he never kept his mouth shut while he is awake. *my friend and i could not stop laughing with it in the cinema*. However, the way of communicate through language are different between men and women.
I'm sure everyone knows that men and women speak differently. The styles of men and women has been describe as " report vs rapport" or " competitive vs cooperative". For men, speaking is a way to negotiate their status in a group and preserve their independent. On the other hand, women speak to keep their friends close and intimacy, talk is a essence of intimacy, so being close friends mean sit down and talk. Personally, I did that quite a lot in high school. I even walked to the next classes and started to talk crap with my friends to kill time when teachers were not around, finished revision studies or after a long chat with my own classmates.
Have you ever take a step back and look around when men and women talk at the same time? Classic example, dining time with your parents. Your mother will probably keep on nagging about everything like what has she been through lately, housework, children and family stuff and father cannot figure out why his woman continually talk, talk and talking. Poor thing for men.
Women love to have "troubles talk" with everyone for the purpose of sharing their trouble in life with everyone because they think this is a way to keep others close to them, sharing is caring. During the troubles talk, men normally will just keep quiet and make women think that men are trying to cut them out of their life. As for men, they do not talk much about their troubles unless they really need advise because talking about their troubles is wallowing them. One common question from men, why women always complaint? Well, they never realized that women are just trying to let men be in their life, inviting them and share with them. What an interesting way for women to let men know that they needs support from men.
Both sexes need to understand their inherent differences of speaking so that they do not expect the impossible. Women should learn how to communicate with different genders and what kind of topics remain to specific gender only and men need to understand what women are talking about, women are not just talking to talk. Sometimes men should should their problems with women, through sharing is a way of showing women that men are not pushing them away.
Perhaps, if men stop expecting women to communicate like men and women stopped trying to make men communicate like women. Life will be so wonderful!
© the vanilla villain Vivian
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