Have you ever found yourself saying "uh huh" or " I'm sorry,what did you say " when one is talking to you or being annoyed by others that are doing that to you as well? Do you know that people can always find out whether you are not listening to them or not through your actions like distractions from a mobile phone, interruptions or even shifty eyes.
Talked to your loved one about some difficulty you were having and the respond you got back was " I don't know what to tell you "? This kind of respond that will make you to feel isolated, neglected, or even abandoned at times. This is exactly why one of the leading complaints in relationships is that one partner feels the other is not listening to them or their needs?
We all want to talk but so few wish to listen. We always think that we are a good communicator. In order to communicate effectively, we have to be able listen what the speaker says. These days we lay so much emphasis on the intellect that we are close our heart and remove the beating moment to moment in our life because we are not listening anymore.
Try to imagine, how would you feel if you are truly listened by someone when you talk about what you wanted? The feeling of being cared about, important and understood. Listeners give responds like " Keep going, I enjoy listening to you ", " I want to hear it more ", loved. " What's your opinion ", " What do you think " or allows the speaker finishes his talk and wait for a while before you reply, respected. The important of listening is this!
While listening seems to constitute half of any conversation, I strongly believe that listening is the most important part of any communication. Always remember, listening is the key for any kind of successful relationship.
© the vanilla villain Vivian
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